Competition in Spiritual Businesses

So, I had a problem with a colleague years ago and I never wrote about it - without going into the details, when I was a healing student, I had a lot of fun in class and made good friends (which was one of my main interests). The people who share your interests become your friends. When this becomes your job, as it did for me, the people who share your interests could be your friends, but they often turn into competitors. And that gets sticky. I have found myself experiencing a lot of the frictions that I used to have in the corporate world. It’s because at the end of the day, even if we run spiritual businesses, we are still all human. Let's say you are into runes or tarot or crystals or chakras - and you want to teach a class on that. Other teachers and healers might not like it.

I used to address this by doing a bit of a tribute to friends who focused on themes that I wasn’t working on professionally, but that I had spent a good amount of time on, personally. So for example, if I was talking about runes, I would mention so and so. When I began posting about those themes online, or doing a class, some would respond well (most did). Eventually I realized that I didn't want to do tributes anymore, and I stopped. It wasn't the best approach as it kept me from owning my experience, and in hindsight, it was not the best friendship dynamic. I think it was a coping mechanism, after I had push back. Spirituality is a business now, and that’s ok, but it’s also a way of life.

I share so many things online. For example, are visual posts there to catch people’s eyes, or just that I am interested in that topic? It’s inevitable to step on people’s toes. I still approach what I post online as sharing what I am into, what I have learned, and what I am doing at the moment. I consider the classes I teach, and energy healing sessions as my job. If it's a class, a ton of time goes into prepping it. If it's a Facebook post, it might be a thought that went through my mind. If it's a one-to-one session with clients, the energy healing technique will be one where I spent a lot of time training, to offer that service. 

I write about things I’m into - you have to let that guide you. It’s part of being authentic. There isn't a huge difference between what I research, what I study for pure enjoyment and what could turn into a business opportunity someday. Blogging is my way of getting ideas out there. Social media is different; it gets you out there, in front of people. I had push back after branching out.

It's common, but we do have to maintain our boundaries. I didn't appreciate this dynamic at all, I found it unsustainable. If it's clear that a relationship has become strained, maybe it's best not to reference each other publicly. Or to build on what we might have learned from them, depending on the situation, as so much of what people share is common knowledge. With this in mind, I deleted a few blog posts and content that referenced colleagues, while still exploring all of my interests. Personally, I’d rather focus on my own research. This feels like the best and the cleanest way forward.

Thinking out loud, 

Regina ~ my part in this 🖤🤍🖤

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University. Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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I’m the tiger from my nightmares 🔥🔥🔥

Growing up, I had a recurring nightmare where we were having lunch at my grandmother’s house. The wall came tumbling down and a roaring tiger came out from behind. Everyone went scrambling - my aunts, uncles, cousins and family friends who were there for lunch. My 8- year old self ran and hid behind a big black piano. 

It didn’t look like exactly my grandparents' house, for one, we seemed to be eating on large picnic tables. I have a clear image of one of my aunts staying put, the rest of the people were hazy. The walls were made of carton too; it didn't keep anything back. 

I would stay huddled behind that piano bench, scared that the tiger would eat me. It paced back and forth but it didn’t feel angry or hungry. My inner child was terrified, as you would be if a tiger suddenly appeared in front of you and you were stuck there. 

After a few weeks of this recurring dream, one night I was watching the tiger and I suddenly realized that it was a dream. The tiger wasn’t there. But unfortunately, someone at school had told us that if you died in a dream you would then die in real life. So I hid from that tiger for years....  

 

Decoding Dreams

Fast forward about 35 years and I asked a Jungian psychologist for recommendations on child psychology books. At the time, I wanted to enroll in a counseling masters but I wasn’t sure what style to adopt. 

He recommended an author called Donald Kalsched and I read a book on dreams, nightmares and what they have to tell us. The ebook was super expensive so I got the Kindle in Portuguese 🇧🇷: O Mundo Interior Do Trauma (The Inner World of Trauma).  

My Portuguese isn’t great but this is what I learned. The book is good, by the way: 

• According to Kalsched, the elements in the recurring dream, or nightmare in my case, are parts of your psyche that are trying to protect you, while also revealing an unconscious complex. It's all you in the dream. 

• He calls those complexes archetypal self-care systems (translating from Portuguese) and they have energy and personality in our dream state and unconscious. I imagine they influence our behavior while we are awake too, in knee-jerk reactions? 

• We can revisit the dream to decode it; as far as I can tell, this is part of counseling sessions. My approach was to send healing to that part of me with Reiki and energy healing.

Here are my insights. I read the book two years ago but I'd forgotten about it until recently, when a song made it click.   

• If you die in a dream, you don’t die in real life. Obvious, but my inner child needed to hear that. Yesterday I started there and then sent healing to the part of me that went into hiding... 

• I‘d already been connecting with Inanna, the goddess of music and war, after a meditation where Katy Perry’s Roar came up. I was trying to make friends with a tiger but my inner child was still terrified. In energy healing, that’s a fragmented part of your psyche that that has to be brought back into the fold, gently. 

• A few weeks ago I realized that the tiger represents various elements (or characters) in the family tree  - it’s a pattern and an energy that is powerful and that had the intention of standing up for us. The piano and the tiger represented two sides of the same coin, funny enough. That energy represented visibility and presence.

• But as a child, and even more recently as an adult, big displays of emotion threw me off. That energy was terrifying to me as a kid, because of the emotion and the tiger image. My adult self isn't scared; I like the idea of a tiger spirit animal. 

That tiger was always larger than life in my unconscious, but when I bring it up and integrate it into my personality, it's amazing. This is what I need to go out into the world confidently and to keep from recoiling. So yes, awesome; the antihero becomes the antidote. I'm the tiger, it's me 🔥🔥🔥

Intuitively, I've felt that tiger walking with me during meditations, and leaping out of my solar plexus chakra, into the world. Here is the song that inspired this aha moment!

Anti-Hero by Taylor Swift  

BTW -  I’m fluent in English, Spanish, so-so French and I speak a little Italian. I don’t speak Portuguese but it’s similar enough to work it out. Got through a third of the book, just enough to decipher this dream. 

For now my energy healing books are available in English and Spanish 🦁

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Reiki hugs,

Regina 

 

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University; Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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Release Inner Blocks to Love, Happiness and Success

There is a song that I love by the Mexican artist, Julieta Venegas, because she walks away from something (a relationship) that she might deserve, but doesn't want. 

It got me thinking about whether we get what we deserve - or what we reach for. And in many cases, what we tolerate. That's in terms of creating the life you want to experience. We need to think bigger.

 

It's cool to work on healing your self-worth, your boundaries, and to revisit what you think you deserve in life and relationships. Believing that you don't deserve a particular experience is a block; it takes away from your personal initiative and negotiating power. But objectively, lean into what you want to experience, regardless of whether you or others think you deserve X, Y or Z.  

Today I'm asking myself what is possible, not what people think should happen. The realm of possibilities is the playing field.

 

On a side-note, most healers and empaths are very tuned into other people's feelings and needs. I know this applies to me. Often, I find myself wondering if a lucky break isn't more deserved or needed elsewhere. This is one of the patterns that I needed to heal and release. It clicked for me a few weeks ago, when I listened to this lovely song: 

Listen to your intuition, not the voice of your ego. The ego makes us feel smaller, its sabotage keeps us from achieving our potential. The flip side would be to assume we deserve more than others (also ego). 

One of my spiritual psychology teachers suggests connecting with that part of yourself, understanding how it seeks to protect you, and having an inner dialogue so that its energy can be repurposed to empower you. Release the belief that leads to self-sabotage. You can do this in any energy healing session, simply by setting the intention to fill that part of yourself with love, forgiveness and lots of healing. 

I’m working on this now but I wanted to share these insights. Self-healing is a work in progress; we don’t have to be perfect and aiming for that keeps us from reaching our potential. As my middle school soccer coach used to tell us, if you wait for the perfect shot you’ll never score a goal. 

Free yourself with a bit of self healing! Join me on Youtube for meditations to go with my books. Enjoy and please share 💜 

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Reiki hugs, 

Regina Chouza

> Please Note: I’m energy healer, not a psychologist. I have taken a few spiritual psychology classes out of curiosity.  

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Is there a Goddess of Music?

Psychic meditations are similar to dream analysis; we receive messages as images, sounds, scents and then interpret it when we are done. Sometimes the message comes to life completely in one session, but often it builds with time. In school, when we were doing psychic readings for another person we'd ask for their visuals and discuss it with them at the end.

This Fall I signed up for an online class at my former psychic school. One of my classmates now teaches there, Liesl Duffy. It has been so much fun to be back in the student seat. We have been connecting with different angels and guides every week.

The weekly theme is always a surprise. Last month, I finally understood the music that I’d hearing in my personal meditations for nearly two years. Liesl told us that we would be connecting with a goddess and the meditation consisted of a journey to a temple where we would meet her. We would find out who she was once we arrived, not before.

Everything that I describe below came to me intuitively, without any music playing in class, and little narration. 

From the outset I heard songs running through my mind. It felt (more than sounded) like a feminine voice ringing out from the jungle on our way into the temple. I am from Mexico and love the Pacific coast, hence the jungle. The clairaudient meditations that I have had the past few years have been similar - a powerful female voice echoing my words - but she has what feels like limitless reach. I will often get clips of music videos that I like too.

As we continued through the meditation, we were guided to approach a temple. The teacher who facilitates the class doesn't give many details and this leaves space for our intuition to fill in the blanks. I kept hearing music, often Shakira's DARE or Katy Perry's ROAR. Every now and then I heard snippets of Rihanna's "What's my name" with a variation on the lyrics, so that it went: INANNA, WHAT'S MY NAME. Then back to Roar. 

I also got the impression that we could only enter if we danced our way in. All along the path there were people dancing - almost like they were listening to a cosmic concert. I am not much a dancer (but I do love music) so I was relieved to be the only witness to this meditation lol. 

When we finally made it into the temple, Liesl told us that we were there to connect with an ancient goddess known as Inanna. I had connected with her intuitively in the past, usually a passing thought, but hadn't made a link between her and the music. Inanna was a fierce Sumerian goddess, looking after love, beauty, fertility, war, justice and political power. 

In the past, when I have asked why this Goddess is relevant for me, the word ASTARTE came to mind; the name used for Inanna in Phoenicia, from where the Lebanese (Maronite) side of my family hails. Not entirely sure what it means, and Inanna rings a bell more than Astarte does, but the musical vibration feels amazing. In previous posts I have written about manifesting with music; I believe this goddess amplifies the effect. We can connect with that beautiful energy.

 

As far as history is concerned, there was a religious following of Inanna thousands of years ago. It is likely the beliefs and practices were reflective of Sumerian culture at the time. I don't know much about it as the intuitive meditations are experiential in nature, focused on healing and personal development. The meditation was freeing, full of life and reflective of Katy Perry's Roar or Shakira's Dare. Just what I needed lol. 

When class was wrapping up, Liesl mentioned Rihanna's What's My Name (Inanna) and talked about that feminine energy expressing itself through music, with confidence. This is common in psychic meditations as we are all tuned into the same current of energy.

Reiki hugs, 

Regina

 

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Manifesting Miracles With Music

Last year I gave a tarot reading where manifesting desires came up; specifically, how easy it was for the client's family to score tickets and freebies to see their favourite bands playing. When it came to other wants, like a business taking off, the process was much slower. The complexity of a business is just bigger, but why was it that anything musical took off quickly? 

Why are some things easier to manifest? 

The message that came through was about the bliss we feel when we are at a concert, or even listening to music that we love. It is not a stepping stone to anything else, you just want to enjoy the moment. It is not a fancy purse or a car that will do X, Y or Z for you. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting a beautiful bag or a piece of jewellery that we genuinely love ;-)

If we want to manifest other things with the same level of ease, we have to connect with the end goal and not the vehicle that may get us there. On a side note, this reminds me of my marketing days, but don’t get me started on that. (Treat yourself to things and experiences that you genuinely need and love; don’t fall for misdirection). We can manifest our Heart's desires quicker than the Ego's wants because the Ego wants security and focuses on things that appear to offer security, whereas the Heart will sense joy and taps into it naturally.

 

Allowing vs Forcing Manifestations 

A few years ago, I signed up for a friend’s spiritual psychology class. We looked at manifesting and resonance, as well as psychology. she explained that the Universe responds to how we feel about situations. When we see something and think "oh I like that!" the Universe takes note. The more often we respond with appreciation, the clearer our signal. Every time we respond positively to an idea, we tell the Universe to bring it closer to us. Until poof!!! It comes about in the best way. I've had a few gifts come along this way…

To recap, the key is to respond with a joyful "I love that!" when we come across anything that we'd like to have in our lives. Whether it is a new purse, a new relationship, a promotion at work, a solid group of friends or even a house on a specific street. This is how I found my apartment in Notting Hill years ago - felt it in my Heart Chakra and I wound up on the most beautiful street.

Why Envy Has The Opposite Effect 

If instead, we respond with envy to the world around us, that unhappy and slightly bitter feeling sends mixed signals to the Universe. The Universe isn't a psychologist who thinks "she responds with irritation but deep down, wants it, so I'll give it to her anyway." Instead, the Universe registers envy as an unhappy feeling that arises in response to X, Y or Z. To help us, it pushes the object away from us so that we can be at peace. Not helpful at all is it??? 

All emotions are valid, but some lead to self sabotage. Envy is a tricky one because it shows us what we think we can’t have (in some cases, it might be true). It also repels the object of our desires. The Universe can move us into a position where we can satisfy our needs and wants for growth, love and abundance - but we have to give it time and space to do so, on its terms. That might mean getting something that looks different, but feels right. Working through envy is key from a soul growth point of view. More on that in the future, but it’s a gateway to your soul’s purpose and uniqueness. 

The trick is to heal the source of envy, knowing that we too can shine; all the while feeling joy for others. The more we celebrate others, the better off we are. 

Some Musical Inspiration! 

My book, Chakra Healing & Magick, looks at tools designed to create a life of love, joy and power. Whenever I sit down to visualize an intended future I will listen to my favorite songs to feel that joy, asking for This or Something Better for my Highest Good, a manifesting phrase from Camila's class. We can also sing; the intention is for your voice to send that vibe out to the world. 

With this in mind, here is a link to a live performance by Coldplay. It also brings in a bit of color vibration (yellow) for the Solar Plexus Chakra, the chakra for joy, confidence and personal power =)

One Last Healing Tip! 

There are many ways to heal ourselves. I find that the changes we seek come about quicker when we combine energy healing with music. Listen to songs that match your mood - whatever needs healing. My books will get you started. Chakra Healing & Magick includes the healing tools that I use every day. Music and magic in chapter 3. 

The secret ingredient: live recordings amplify the effect with the audience's energy. If you speak Spanish, another favorite! Tap into that sense of joy. Their Super Bowl performance, also a fave - with appearances by Beyoncé & Bruno 🍫

Follow the links below for Chakra Healing & Magick! The book goes through the basics of energy healing and intuition, aiming to empower our lives by releasing doubt and limiting beliefs 🌺 Happy manifesting! 

Reiki hugs,

Regina Chouza

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