A Defense of Skeptics

Hi there! I am an energy healer, astrologer and clairvoyant, but I also have a skeptical side. Here are my thoughts on skepticism. 

• There are places where it’s not needed. Creativity, imagination, art, love, trusting your heart. Finding happiness. 
• There are places where it is useful. Nobody wants to believe everything they come across. Skepticism = discernment. 
• There are places where it is necessary. A lot of things in life need science to back them up. 

That is from a functional point of view. From an ego point of view, if we build our identity on being skeptics, or not being skeptics, that keeps us from distinguishing between the three scenarios mentioned above. 

I enjoy talking to skeptics, atheists, etc. In some way, it’s easier to have a conversation with them, than with religious people who are scared of what I do. Skeptics are often open minded - I have to admit I wasn’t that open minded when I was starting out, and a lot of that was due to that rational identity. Would people laugh at me? Would they think I had lost my mind. I was worried about how I would be perceived by others. 

I keep reminding myself that one of my philosophy professors would say that if we worried about how we’d be perceived through our writing, we’d lose our readers. Some of my college professors were skeptics too. Funny enough, the people who convinced me to open up and take my spiritual path seriously were scientist friends from college. My university had a big science and research focus (I was in humanities, not science). View it as an experiment, they suggested. 

👉🏻 Eventually I got to the point where I thought, ok I don't need to worry about what skeptics think of me, as long as I am still able to apply skepticism in my life. Apply it, but don't let the ego stop you.  

You’ll find 16 years of blog posts on this website. It’s my journey into the spiritual and energy healing world. There has been a lot of intuition and imagination on this journey. I have explored lots of energy healing techniques - all of them are complementary to medical care. As you’ll see from reading some of my posts, I worked in marketing at a healthcare company and have 3+ years of product development behind me. 

The science element brought a big learning curve, when I started that job. I learned a ton. I respect medicine. I respect science, but I also love and value intuition, imagination and spiritual practices. 

Thank you for reading my blog! 

Reiki hugs, 

Regina 

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University. Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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Competition in Spiritual Businesses

I saw a quote by Mark Manson on Facebook a few days ago: “Boundaries only piss off the people who benefited from you having none.” It got me thinking about how we manage personal and professional relationships. In tandem, I’m taking an Internal Family Systems psychology class that guides us through recurring relationship themes in our lives - what part of you relates to others in different situations. I’m not a psychologist, but it helps a lot to look at our patterns. Otherwise we get stuck.

So, I had a problem with a colleague years ago and I never wrote about it - without going into the details, when I was a healing student, I had a lot of fun in class and made good friends (which was one of my main interests). The people who share your interests become your friends. When this becomes your job, as it did for me, the people who share your interests could be your friends, but they often turn into competitors. And that gets sticky. I have found myself experiencing a lot of the frictions that I used to have in the corporate world. It’s because at the end of the day, even if we run spiritual businesses, we are still all human. Let's say you are into runes or tarot or crystals or chakras - and you want to teach a class on that. Other teachers and healers might not like it.

I used to address this by doing a bit of a tribute to friends who focused on themes that I wasn’t working on professionally, but that I had spent a good amount of time on, personally. So for example, if I was talking about runes, I would mention so and so. When I began posting about those themes online, or doing a class, some would respond well (most did). Eventually I realized that I didn't want to do tributes anymore, and I stopped. It wasn't the best approach as it kept me from owning my experience, and in hindsight, it was not the best friendship dynamic. I think it was a coping mechanism, after I had push back. Spirituality is a business now, and that’s ok, but it’s also a way of life.

I share so many things online. For example, are visual posts there to catch people’s eyes, or just that I am interested in that topic? It’s inevitable to step on people’s toes. I still approach what I post online as sharing what I am into, what I have learned, and what I am doing at the moment. I consider the classes I teach, and energy healing sessions as my job. If it's a class, a ton of time goes into prepping it. If it's a Facebook post, it might be a thought that went through my mind. If it's a one-to-one session with clients, the energy healing technique will be one where I spent a lot of time training, to offer that service. 

I want to write about things I’m into - you have to let that guide you. It’s part of being authentic and it makes it fun too. There isn't a huge difference between what I research, what I study for pure enjoyment and what could turn into a business opportunity someday. Blogging is my way of getting ideas out there. Social media is different; it gets you out there, in front of people. I had strong push back after branching out. 

It’s common, but we do have to maintain our boundaries. I didn't appreciate this dynamic at all, I found it unsustainable. If it's clear that a relationship has become strained, maybe it's best not to reference them anymore. I also realized I didn’t want to build on what I might have learned from them. It depends on the situation, as so much of what people share is common knowledge. I have deleted learnings and content that referenced colleagues, while still exploring all of my interests. Honestly, I would rather focus on my own work. This feels like the best and the cleanest way forward. This is the only long-standing process that I hadn’t blogged about.

Regina ~ my part in this 🖤🤍🖤

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University. Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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We are bigger than our egos

Lately, I’ve been thinking about why the world is so dysfunctional. Two things come to mind - faulty egos, where one person feels like they have to one-up another, and second, the possibility of losing our security, financial or otherwise. Both of these are important but the first can be addressed with energy healing, so I’m going to focus my attention on that one - integrating and redirecting the ego’s energy. 

 

I've been giving this a lot of thought recently, and I believe that most of the damage caused by humans can be explained by two big factors:

• Faulty Egos & Emotional Pain, where one person has to outperform another to feel good about themselves. They might have childhood trauma that makes them feel inferior, hurt, angry or vengeful. Those core wounds lead to actions that harm others in ways that are unnecessary - whether it's a snide comment or something more direct. The faulty ego might get pleasure from feeling superior, but that satisfaction is filtered through a wound. Pain is on background refresh; any efforts to do well suffer because of it. Everyone loses.

• Fear of Loss / Scarcity. It's assuming that there aren't enough opportunities for everyone to win at life. This might be literal - not enough money, or psychological (not enough praise, which brings us back to the first point; a damaged ego). For example, if one restauranteur opens a sushi restaurant and gets lots of good reviews, another chef might feel like they will lose customers. To be honest, this is based on real-life economic conditions and it’s a healthy human response. Competition is normal - a necessary survival mechanism, but my intuition tells me that aggressive competition and defensiveness happen because most of us are not aligned with our uniqueness or our vision. This is what I learned in business school too - differentiate your biz, your personality and your products. From a spiritual point of view, there is a part of your soul that taps into your life purpose and what no one else can match. 

Healing your ego might involve integrating an overblown ego that pushes people away, but it could also be a dysfunctional ego that makes a person act small or insecure. 

We want to assert ourselves, without going overboard and wreaking havoc on other people’s lives. One of the biggest takeaways is needing to set that boundary yourself; long term peace and stability is found when everyone thrives. Pluto in Libra generation here ♎️

The Ego is not Bad

>> We all have egos, and to quote a psychologist friend, you need your ego to prop you up and give you strength. Don’t get rid of your ego, heal and integrate it. 

Read my books to heal yourself and join me on YouTube for meditations. I also offer healing sessions. A lot of self-healing is about developing confidence in yourself and releasing beliefs that paint you into a corner, beliefs about yourself and the world.

 

Heal yourself 💜💜💜💜

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When I’ve done meditations to strengthen my sense of security, my intuition points me to this matrushka metaphor. Your full / higher self is a lot bigger than your ego / human self. And there is a part of us that has infinite growth potential. That said, I’m still a work in progress (aren’t we all), but today I asked for guidance. This is it.

Reiki hugs, 

Regina 

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University; Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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SHK

I’m the tiger from my nightmares 🔥🔥🔥

Growing up, I had a recurring nightmare where we were having lunch at my grandmother’s house. The wall came tumbling down and a roaring tiger came out from behind. Everyone went scrambling - my aunts, uncles, cousins and family friends who were there for lunch. My 8- year old self ran and hid behind a big black piano. 

It didn’t look like exactly my grandparents' house, for one, we seemed to be eating on large picnic tables. I have a clear image of one of my aunts staying put, the rest of the people were hazy. The walls were made of carton too; it didn't keep anything back. 

I would stay huddled behind that piano bench, scared that the tiger would eat me. It paced back and forth but it didn’t feel angry or hungry. My inner child was terrified, as you would be if a tiger suddenly appeared in front of you and you were stuck there. 

After a few weeks of this recurring dream, one night I was watching the tiger and I suddenly realized that it was a dream. The tiger wasn’t there. But unfortunately, someone at school had told us that if you died in a dream you would then die in real life. So I hid from that tiger for years....  

 

Decoding Dreams

Fast forward about 35 years and I asked a Jungian psychologist for recommendations on child psychology books. At the time, I wanted to enroll in a counseling masters but I wasn’t sure what style to adopt. 

He recommended an author called Donald Kalsched and I read a book on dreams, nightmares and what they have to tell us. The ebook was super expensive so I got the Kindle in Portuguese 🇧🇷: O Mundo Interior Do Trauma (The Inner World of Trauma).  

My Portuguese isn’t great but this is what I learned. The book is good, by the way: 

• According to Kalsched, the elements in the recurring dream, or nightmare in my case, are parts of your psyche that are trying to protect you, while also revealing an unconscious complex. It's all you in the dream. 

• He calls those complexes archetypal self-care systems (translating from Portuguese) and they have energy and personality in our dream state and unconscious. I imagine they influence our behavior while we are awake too, in knee-jerk reactions? 

• We can revisit the dream to decode it; as far as I can tell, this is part of counseling sessions. My approach was to send healing to that part of me with Reiki and energy healing.

Here are my insights. I read the book two years ago but I'd forgotten about it until recently, when a song made it click.   

• If you die in a dream, you don’t die in real life. Obvious, but my inner child needed to hear that. Yesterday I started there and then sent healing to the part of me that went into hiding... 

• I‘d already been connecting with Inanna, the goddess of music and war, after a meditation where Katy Perry’s Roar came up. I was trying to make friends with a tiger but my inner child was still terrified. In energy healing, that’s a fragmented part of your psyche that that has to be brought back into the fold, gently. 

• A few weeks ago I realized that the tiger represents various elements (or characters) in the family tree  - it’s a pattern and an energy that is powerful and that had the intention of standing up for us. The piano and the tiger represented two sides of the same coin, funny enough. That energy represented visibility and presence.

• But as a child, and even more recently as an adult, big displays of emotion threw me off. That energy was terrifying to me as a kid, because of the emotion and the tiger image. My adult self isn't scared; I like the idea of a tiger spirit animal. 

That tiger was always larger than life in my unconscious, but when I bring it up and integrate it into my personality, it's amazing. This is what I need to go out into the world confidently and to keep from recoiling. So yes, awesome; the antihero becomes the antidote. I'm the tiger, it's me 🔥🔥🔥

Intuitively, I've felt that tiger walking with me during meditations, and leaping out of my solar plexus chakra, into the world. Here is the song that inspired this aha moment!

Anti-Hero by Taylor Swift  

BTW -  I’m fluent in English, Spanish, so-so French and I speak a little Italian. I don’t speak Portuguese but it’s similar enough to work it out. Got through a third of the book, just enough to decipher this dream. 

For now my energy healing books are available in English and Spanish 🦁

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Reiki hugs,

Regina 

 

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University; Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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Release Inner Blocks to Love, Happiness and Success

There is a song that I love by the Mexican artist, Julieta Venegas, because she walks away from something (a relationship) that she might deserve, but doesn't want. 

It got me thinking about whether we get what we deserve - or what we reach for. And in many cases, what we tolerate. That's in terms of creating the life you want to experience. We need to think bigger.

 

It's cool to work on healing your self-worth, your boundaries, and to revisit what you think you deserve in life and relationships. Believing that you don't deserve a particular experience is a block; it takes away from your personal initiative and negotiating power. But objectively, lean into what you want to experience, regardless of whether you or others think you deserve X, Y or Z.  

Today I'm asking myself what is possible, not what people think should happen. The realm of possibilities is the playing field.

 

On a side-note, most healers and empaths are very tuned into other people's feelings and needs. I know this applies to me. Often, I find myself wondering if a lucky break isn't more deserved or needed elsewhere. This is one of the patterns that I needed to heal and release. It clicked for me a few weeks ago, when I listened to this lovely song: 

Listen to your intuition, not the voice of your ego. The ego makes us feel smaller, its sabotage keeps us from achieving our potential. The flip side would be to assume we deserve more than others (also ego). 

One of my spiritual psychology teachers suggests connecting with that part of yourself, understanding how it seeks to protect you, and having an inner dialogue so that its energy can be repurposed to empower you. Release the belief that leads to self-sabotage. You can do this in any energy healing session, simply by setting the intention to fill that part of yourself with love, forgiveness and lots of healing. 

I’m working on this now but I wanted to share these insights. Self-healing is a work in progress; we don’t have to be perfect and aiming for that keeps us from reaching our potential. As my middle school soccer coach used to tell us, if you wait for the perfect shot you’ll never score a goal. 

Free yourself - my books will guide you through the energy healing process - including creative techniques to support your growth and personal power. Enjoy and please share 💜 

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Reiki hugs, 

Regina Chouza

> Please Note: I’m energy healer, not a psychologist. I have taken a few spiritual psychology classes out of curiosity.  

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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University; Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.

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