I was listening to The Beatles this morning when Let It Be came up on the playlist. Funny thing is I usually listen to tunes and hum along without paying attention to the lyrics (I can almost hear songwriters groaning in the background). Today the words struck a chord and I hit the rewind button to hear them again:
"When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom,
Let it be, let it be"
It struck me how insightful the message is. What you resist, persists. And the more you resist, the more it persists. I've heard this a million times but I don't know who gave birth to the idea. If the Beatles predate the Law of Attraction folks, they may be the real groundbreakers (no, really!?!). Eckhart Tolle also explores this topic in depth in his book, A New Earth, suggesting that the best plan is to accept our troubles for what they are and deal with unbearable situations by:
- Removing yourself from it, if humanly possible.
- If not, accepting it for now, as this too shall pass ...
Raging against the situation isn't a viable option because it would only drain our personal energy. If we can't change the situation or remove ourselves from it, acceptance is the easiest way to live with it. This isn’t to say we give up if we feel powerless, because that feeling can be an illusion. The difference between wanting to change it and being able to is the reason for Reinhold Niehbuhr's well-known Serenity Prayer:
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
Earlier this year I felt stuck in a situation that I desperately wanted out of. I threw inner tantrums once or twice, draining my energy and adding to my sense of stress. Thankfully, nothing lasts forever and the time came for me to move on. Hindsight having the benefit of 20/20 vision; I now know that I could have saved myself a lot of stress by chilling out.
Letting external circumstances determine our state of mind is akin to living on a roller coaster. In A New Earth, Tolle explains exactly how happiness is an inside job. He also teaches us how to create that bliss NOW. I highly recommend this book, if you haven't read it. For starters, it is helping me switch off the mental chatter. That in itself makes it so much easier to just let it be, let it be ...