A lot has been written on forgiveness and why it is so important to let go of grievances; it’s one of the steps on the road to peace. But it is not the first step nor the most important. Think of a person who has been hurt or betrayed by a loved one, a close friend or by a terrible loss. How can one expect to forgive if one still feels hurt? Or if we have no apology. Yesterday I meditated in a beautiful church called Mary Star of the Sea, where I had the most amazing insights on this question...
The short answer: we can't forgive if we are still hurting. Based on my experiences with energy healing over the past ten years, the first step is to become aware of our emotional pain and let it be what it is. Accept the fact that you feel angry or hurt.
Please give yourself a chance to run the energy of love, compassion and forgiveness through your body. Even if we feel that we have nothing to let go of, memories will come to the surface, often from childhood and young adult years. It is often the little things that leave energetic imprints, but they fade away just as quickly when we finally decide to dust ourselves off.
If this emotion is the result of an abusive relationship, please get help and find a safe way out - but if it stems from the past, give yourself time and space to let those feelings come to the surface so that you can heal them. Therapy works wonders, and we can also try energy healing at home!
Three Steps to Forgiveness:
1) Begin by grounding, clearing and shielding your personal energy before attuning to divine light. The steps can be found in both of my healing books. You'll find a simple angel meditation HERE.
2) Once you are ready to start channeling the energy of love and compassion through your physical body and Aura, visualize the part of yourself that feels hurt. Let a soft white, violet or pink light stream through you, sending any excess healing energies into the ground. No pressure to heal quickly or to experience forgiveness - just give that part of yourself lots of love.
3) We then end the visualization by running gold light through our body and Aura, letting it fill all of the spaces that might have been cleared by the healing energy that we have just channeled. Always end by grounding and shielding your personal space (Aura).
This approach acknowledges that a part of your psyche may be in an emotional or energetic ICU. With care and self-healing, it will come through stronger and more resilient. When that part of yourself is ready to emerge, the bruises will have faded; And instead of forgiving rationally because the mind tells you that letting go brings peace, it will come about naturally.
Learn To Channel Energy Healing
Both of my books guide us through the process. If you are interested in forgiveness from a wellness point of view, I would suggest my first book, A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love. It looks at energy healing as a complementary therapy for cancer patients though it is also useful in other situations.
Three Steps to Forgiveness:
1) Begin by grounding, clearing and shielding your personal energy before attuning to divine light. The steps can be found in both of my healing books. You'll find a simple angel meditation HERE.
2) Once you are ready to start channeling the energy of love and compassion through your physical body and Aura, visualize the part of yourself that feels hurt. Let a soft white, violet or pink light stream through you, sending any excess healing energies into the ground. No pressure to heal quickly or to experience forgiveness - just give that part of yourself lots of love.
3) We then end the visualization by running gold light through our body and Aura, letting it fill all of the spaces that might have been cleared by the healing energy that we have just channeled. Always end by grounding and shielding your personal space (Aura).
This approach acknowledges that a part of your psyche may be in an emotional or energetic ICU. With care and self-healing, it will come through stronger and more resilient. When that part of yourself is ready to emerge, the bruises will have faded; And instead of forgiving rationally because the mind tells you that letting go brings peace, it will come about naturally.
Learn To Channel Energy Healing
Both of my books guide us through the process. If you are interested in forgiveness from a wellness point of view, I would suggest my first book, A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love. It looks at energy healing as a complementary therapy for cancer patients though it is also useful in other situations.
The healing tools are meant to help us channel our emotions, including stress, making it useful for the whole family. It is based on my family's experience with cancer.
The techniques in this book are complementary to medical care, not alternative. Self-healing here refers to spiritual, emotional, and energetic practices to support well-being; it is not a cancer treatment.
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Chakra Healing & Magick
If you would like to try a creative approach to self healing, Chakra Healing & Magick is probably the best fit. Chapter 5 guides us through the energy healing steps required to balance and heal our chakras, or to send healing to specific themes in our lives. It also look at art-based healing techniques and crystal healing. My go-to stones for emotional peace and healing are rose quartz, rhodonite and lapis lazuli.
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Reiki hugs,
Regina
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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, astrologer and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She holds a BA in Philosophy from Tufts University and an MBA from IPADE - focusing on ethics, finance and leadership. Regina’s passion is bringing self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to awaken your intuition and channel energy healing. Available on Amazon.