Last week I wrote about the Laws of Karma and how we can use them manifest good luck for ourselves. Today I am going to cover a technique that I learned at the Kabbalah Centre UK. Its often referred to as the Proactive Formula, because it teaches us to pay attention when making even the smallest of choices. Do what’s right and don't let our knee jerk reactions get the best of us. The theory is simple but it does take lots self-awareness and some willpower.
Here is how it works:
1. We are faced with an obstacle (or an opportunity).
2. In that moment, we remember that our reaction is the game changer.
3. Ideally, we have the presence of mind not to re-act out of fear or anger.
4. The Universe responds to good choices by opening doors!
So for example, let’s say your New Year’s Resolution is to get back in shape. Its Tuesday night, you left work early and you have time to go for a run before dinner! Wonderful! But that’s when the inner dialogue starts. Think back to those children’s cartoons where we had a little angel speaking into one ear, and the little devil into another. The angel says “Go on! Put on your cross trainers! You’ll enjoy the run when you’re out there! You can do it!” You think about it, until the other voice starts up: “Oh but I’m tired! One run won’t make a difference. I need a nap!” Etc.
This inner dialogue represents the Voice of the Light, and of our Human Ego. The Ego is easy to spot. It speaks out of self-doubt, laziness, fear and sometimes out of anger. Its there to sabotage our plans and to test our resolve. The cartoon angel speaks for our Soul and our Light; it clues us in through our desires and often through our feelings. These aspects pull us in two different directions. The one we listen to gets louder, and unfortunately it's easier to be swept off our feet by the voice of the Ego. So for example, if we back away from an opportunity because we’re nervous, that's the Ego talking. It pops up in relationships, at work, in social situations, etc. Or if something goes wrong and we react by getting mad and pointing fingers, that’s the Ego.
It’s probably impossible to completely eliminate our Ego, but what we can do is identify the type of situation where we lose control. One way to do this is to keep a journal and write down what happened each day. How did you react to different situations? When did you let anger, fear, doubt or worry get the best of you. After a while you’ll start to see different patterns, and you can choose one to work with. Ask yourself, WHERE DO I SABOTAGE MYSELF THE MOST and start with that. Its also important not to judge yourself, because you’ll notice how often you listen to your Ego. Observe your reactions for a few weeks and then slowly give yourself the change to choose a different reaction. The change won’t happen over night, be patient and consistent with yourself.
The better we get at ignoring the ego, the more light we bring into our lives. This opens doors for us in a very tangible way – after all we’re taking steps to accomplish what we really want. And on a meta-physical level, the Universe rewards our bravery and our willpower with lucky coincidences, opportunities that seem to appear out of the blue, etc. We create a lucky streak. At the very least you’ll do yourself a favor by eliminating a bad habit. You might even experience a miracle or two! I have had great results with this, for example, I applied it rigorously for a month and then found a flat in London with unbelievably low rent. At first you’ll wonder if it was a coincidence, until you start to have lots of lucky coincidences. =) If you’d like to learn more I would recommend a book by Yehuda Berg called LivingKabbalah. Brilliant book!