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Releasing Negativity

Today I would like to address a question that came in via Facebook. One of my followers wants to know how she can release negativity, especially vibes that she picks up from friends, family and colleagues when they are down in the dumps. I am sure we have all been in that situation at some point. The person next to you is going through rough patch and their mood rubs off on you. Today I am going to give you three tools that will put a stop to this. 

  • 1) Energy Basics: Let’s start by Grounding, Clearing and Protecting our energy every day. Grounding anchors our energy, connecting us to the earth’s solid foundations. You can do this by visualizing tree roots growing out of your feet to the bottom of the ground. Intend for it to anchor you. Then clear your energy by visualizing and feeling a shower of white light running through your body. This releases any tension, stress or unhappy vibes from your energy system. Finally, protect your energy by placing a bubble of light around your energy field. White, blue and purple work best for me, but you can use any color that makes you feel safe. Follow these steps twice daily and they will become more and more effective. 
  • 2) Step Away: The next technique can be harder to pull off, at least initially, because it involves a mental switch. When you start to feel overwhelmed, remind yourself that it’s not your problem. We each attract and create situations that mirror our beliefs. The person next to you may be operating on a whole other level of drama. Bless them and detach from the situation. If you’re the kind of person who wants to rescue others, it will be difficult at first and you may feel tempted to take on some of their baggage. It’s important to step away from it all. At school, my tutors called it objectivity. For me it's striking a balance between compassion and indifference. Not needing to rescue, to be right, etc. 
  • 3) Send Them Light: Finally, we move onto helping our neighbour release that negativity and send it back to the universe. I would suggest waiting until you’ve mastered the first two before trying this. Otherwise, you risk falling back into the whirlwind of emotions that surround you. Wait until you are grounded, objective and “indifferent” before trying this: Send them light, send their soul light, and encourage it to release the filter, if it can. Then offer a different way of looking at things. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, so long as they’re given a new perspective. Offer it kindly, without too many arguments or trying to reason with them. A simple observation is more than enough. Remind them of a time when "it" wasn't true. When someone was kind or helpful, etc. 







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Regina Chouza is an energy healer, angel medium and the author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. Blogging at Diary of a Psychic Healer since 2010, her passion is bringing the qualities of love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to unlock your intuition. 





 

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