I have had lots of questions from readers who are trying to move on after a break up. But something holds them back and they keep falling into the same rut over and over again. It's as if they are attached to the very thing they want to escape! In energy work, we call these cords.
Cords are currents of energy that connect us to the people around us. When we hit it off with someone new, our heart chakra opens up and we form a bond that allows for the passage of friendly vibes. We tend to have these energy pathways with friends, family, and even acquaintances that we hit it off with. Cords can be positive but they can also be affected by the tension that comes with human relationships.
When a cord is compromised by fear, anger, control, or jealousy it will need healing. People can also cord to us in unhealthy ways if they are intent on having us behave a certain way. For example, an overbearing boss might cord to your solar plexus because they want you to do things their way. All this this can happen without either party being aware of the process. Entire books have been written on cords, cord cutting, and what it means if someone cords to a particular chakra or body part. Good stuff.
Today I will to talk you through a basic visualisation that can be used to remove a negative cord. These exercises have helped me get closure and I have also used it to heal a tense relationship with someone that I am not going to cut out of my life (i.e. the boss, the mom, the ex-boyfriend that still goes to your school, etc etc etc). This can also be used if you want to move on from a relationship that has ended without talking to the person involved.
1. GROUNDING & PROTECTION: Sit down to ground and protect yourself. This can be done by visualising a bubble of soft white light around you, and then focusing on the bottoms of your feet. See and feel roots growing out of the soles of your feet and dropping to the centre of the earth.
2. A SHORT GREETING: Imagine yourself sitting in a chair a few feet away from the person you are corded to. In your mind say hello, explain what a cord is and tell them that you are going to remove it. Reassure them by telling them that it won’t hurt either of you, it is important to be compassionate because any negative thoughts or ill will during a cord cutting can defeat the purpose.
3. SEE OR FEEL THE CORD: Let your imagination come in and visualize any energetic bonds that you may have. What does the cord look like? A rope? A string? A chain? Does it connect your solar plexus to their solar plexus? Or are they holding on to your wrist? Pay attention to the material, how thick it is and what direction the energy flows.
Ask yourself if you are really ready to let go of this cord, if the answer is no then stop. You can always come back to this at some point in the future when you are ready to move on. Think about your motives for keeping or cutting the cord. Be honest with yourself, what do you stand to gain by keeping this cord? You can always come back to cut it when you feel ready and safe to do so.
4. DOUBLE BUBBLE OF LIGHT: The next step is to protect the souls involved by putting a protective bubble of light around each of you (separately!). At this point you can tell them all of the things you need to get off your chest. Make sure you get closure, this is a great exercise because we can say things that we would never tell them in person. When you are done, let them respond and listen to any of the impressions that come your way. You are speaking to their higher self so they may be friendlier, but go ahead and cut the cord. The important thing to remember is that cutting cords does not mean ending the relationship. We can cut dysfunctional cords with family members, and it will strengthen our interactions going forward. Unhealthy cords are unhealthy cords*
5. VISUALISE BIG SCISSORS cutting the cord in the middle, so that you each have half. Then visualize the cord slowly coming undone and letting go of your own body 1st. It helps if you imagine a fireplace and the cord goes in there and it's burnt. Visualise a ball of white light filling your body with energy, make sure any gaps left by the cord are sealed with white light. Its really important to see their white light and let it turn to gold color, before you move on. Then ask yourself what feeling you most want (love, happiness, security, etc), and fill your bubble with the same. From here you tell your ex that you will return everything that is theirs, and you let go of them.
6. HEAL THE OTHER PERSON: Follow the same process with the other person, this is really important as you need to let them heal from the process so that you can both move on safely. You visualize the cord slowly letting go of them, it comes out and it goes into the same fireplace. Their body is also filled with white light, and then gold light to heal and protect them. From here I recommend filling up their bubble with happiness, but you can send any good emotion. If this is difficult, ask Archangel Raphael to step in and complete their healing.
7. SEND THEM OFF: This is when you send them away. I will visualize a flowing river behind them, with a small boat and you put their bubble on the boat and let it be taken out of sight by the current. Make sure the river is safe, and just let go of them. On one occasion I wanted to cut a cord with a person that I never wanted to see again in my life (seriously) so I dropped a Great Wall of China between us and then used my intent to have them be carried away - with love but away. It worked too! Despite having friends in common we have never turned up at the same event! LOL
8. END THE HEALING: When we are done with a healing session, we finish by closing down our energy and shielding it before going back out to the world. You can do this by following three simple steps:
1) Ground your energy by visualising tree roots growing from the bottoms of your feet, anchoring you to the earth.
2) Desensitise your chakras by visualising a soft ball of light that travels down your core from the top of your head, to your feet. It clears and switches off your energy sensors.
3) Finally, surround yourself in a bubble of protective light, et voila!
AFTERTHOUGHTS
Our teachers always tell us that we create cords with our thought and intention, so when you're done cutting it do your best to NOT think about them. If you catch yourself, imagine the same white bubble around yourself and keep yourself safe in there. If the cord was to you heart, you can also put your hand over your heart to protect it. It is good to look at our cords every couple of months.
If you see a cord to your crown, brow, throat, solar plexus or base chakra, this is 100% an unhealthy cord. Is the cord is tied to your ankles, feet, wrists, waist, neck, etc? We can and will have many healthy cords with our friends, family and loved ones, these will always connect heart chakra to heart chakra and they will not feel like a burden. Couples will also have healthy bonds connecting sacral to sacral, assuming the relationship is healthy and balanced.
The chakra that is most often corded to is the solar plexus, this is where we hold our personal power. If someone has an interest in controlling or influencing us, that energy will more often than not be directed at our solar plexus. The first time someone corded to my solar plexus I was a little bit offended and pissed off at their intrusion, but in reality it takes 2 willing people for any cord to form even if it's subconscious.
I had to take a good look at myself to understand where the gaps were in my energy, and made sure I closed those off so that it wouldn't happen again. Energetic cords or bonds can be viewed as symbolic representations of our relationships, and when one is spotted, the solution is often to adjust our behaviour.
Insecurities or fears can make us vulnerable, and we will develop cords if we think we have something to gain (i.e. approval, love, security, etc etc etc). In all truth I respect people who subconsciously cord to you through the solar plexus's front side, they are above board and honest if a little too controlling.
If you are interested in Cord Cutting and Psychic Attack, there is a great book called Spirit Release by Sue Allen. It does go into some of the scarier details so maybe not for amateurs or hobbyists?
Regina Chouza is an Energy Healer, Angel Medium and author of A Personal Guide to Self-Healing, Cancer & Love and Chakra Healing & Magick. She studied angel intuition and astrology at The College of Psychic Studies in London, and qualified as a healer at the School of Intuition & Healing UK. Her passion is bringing the qualities of self-love, joy and empowerment to healing pursuits. Read her books to heal yourself.
